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Nonviolent communication · IN SHORT

Describe what happened.Ask for what you need.

Prepare a difficult conversation or message using observation, feeling, need and request. The skill helps identify accusations and disguised demands while keeping the substance of your message clear.

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Nonviolent communicationSKILL

Your brief

A colleague changed Tuesday’s schedule without messaging me. I felt tense because I need an overview. I want to ask for a message when plans change.

Possible draft

Fictional example: a changed schedule

Spoken draft: “On Tuesday I saw the changed schedule only when work began. I felt tense because I need to prepare. Would you send me a message when the schedule changes?” If the answer is no, explore an arrangement that is feasible.

Illustrative example
Illustrative example

01 / THE FOUNDATION

You bring the context.The skill adds structure.

What you provide

  • What happened, your own feelings and the change you want to request.
  • The relationship, channel, earlier conversations and any dependency or unsafe situation.

What you get back

Spoken and written drafts, a review of accusations and possible responses to practise.

02 / SEE HOW IT WORKS

From an idea to a draft.

Illustrative exampleFictional example: a changed scheduleRead the example

Your brief

A colleague changed Tuesday’s schedule without messaging me. I felt tense because I need an overview. I want to ask for a message when plans change.

Possible draft

Spoken draft: “On Tuesday I saw the changed schedule only when work began. I felt tense because I need to prepare. Would you send me a message when the schedule changes?” If the answer is no, explore an arrangement that is feasible.

This example shows the approach. It is not a client result or a guarantee of a particular outcome.

03 / GET STARTED

A repeatable approach.Your own context.

  1. Separate fact and inference

    Identify observable events and keep interpretations of the other person separate.

  2. Express four components

    Connect the observation with your feeling and need, then make the request specific.

  3. Practise hearing no

    Check whether a different answer is acceptable and prepare useful follow-up questions.

04 / MAKE IT YOURS

Ready foryour work.

Take the instructions, add your own context and review the draft. You stay in control.

Full information

Nonviolent communication

Download. Apply. Refine.

Download the skill (English)

File language: English

From download to use

  1. Save the ZIP file: ai-nonviolent-communication-coach-skill-for-claude.zip.
  2. Using Claude? Follow the installation guide for your environment. Downloading alone does not activate the skill.
  3. Then provide your own brief and the context listed above. Review the output before using it.
Installation guide (Dutch)
Keep in mind
  • The skill cannot know another person’s feelings or intentions and guarantees no response.
  • A conversation formula is not a solution to intimidation, threats or abuse; appropriate professional support takes priority.